DEAR ABBY: I’m a single, by no means married man. I used to be having bother discovering a pleasant lady thus far, so I purchased a T-shirt from a courting web site to point out the ladies on the grocery and {hardware} shops that I’m single and in search of a date.
I now have a brand new downside — ladies on the ironmongery shop and grocery shops maintain coming as much as me, asking about my shirt and making an attempt to get a date with me. I’m grateful for it, though I’m having bother deciding which one I need to exit with. How do I inform those I’m not serious about that I’m busy or seeing another person? They don’t need to take no for a solution. — FLOODED IN FLORIDA
DEAR FLOODED: Cease saying no so rapidly. In case you are in search of somebody particular, you’re going to should do some sifting. As you’ll uncover, courting is a technique of trial and error. Chances are you’ll discover your style in ladies will change if you happen to expertise a number of of them (or extra).
P.S. I’m sorry you didn’t point out which web site you got that T-shirt from. Do additionally they are available ladies’s sizes?
DEAR ABBY: My partner and I are retired and on Social Safety. We’ve each labored onerous all our lives and are content material residing a modest retirement. Our home is paid for, and we’ve little debt. Nonetheless, we’re each experiencing bodily and psychological decline. I fear about our home. We aren’t capable of clear and keep it like we used to due to our bodily limitations. We used to have events, however we’re embarrassed to have folks over now, which suggests we’re form of remoted.
We additionally fear that our Social Safety and Medicare advantages will probably be stripped away. We depend on them to dwell. We each paid into the system since age 15. Shouldn’t we count on to reap the advantages of paying into the system all these years? We fear on a regular basis in regards to the future, which appears so grim proper now. Even when we will survive the subsequent few years, I’m more and more involved in regards to the disintegration of our residence. I’m not positive the place to show. Any concepts can be tremendously appreciated. — WORRIED ABOUT THE FUTURE
DEAR WORRIED: If there’s a senior heart in your group, attain out and ask if there are any providers that might help you to find moderately priced assist with your home. As to your embarrassment about entertaining pals, that concern could also be pointless. If you need firm, invite pals over for afternoon tea, a picnic or a barbecue exterior if the climate permits.
Relating to your anxiousness about Social Safety, you’re removed from alone in feeling anxious. Roughly 70 million American seniors are worrying proper together with you. Each senior must be writing to their native politicians, their state representatives, congresspersons and senators reminding them that these advantages have been paid for and, if they’re interfered with, it might price them the subsequent election.
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