DEAR ABBY: I’m freshman in highschool, and I stay with my stepmother and father. They’re nice dad and mom to me and my little brother however very homophobic. I like going to church with them, however I’ve a accomplice of the identical gender. My dad and mom not too long ago discovered and have determined as punishment to isolate me from everybody, together with placing me in homeschool.
What they don’t perceive is that I’m confused about myself, and I can’t make sense of my feelings. Can I be each Christian and lesbian? Each time I attempt to ask one in all them for assist understanding, they shut down and name me disgusting. What can I do to get them to know that I would like to speak via this? — WHO AM I IN KENTUCKY
DEAR ‘WHO’: After all an individual will be each LGBTQ and Christian, though you will not be welcomed on the denomination to which your dad and mom belong. The Episcopalians, the Presbyterians, the United Methodist Church, the United Church of Christ and the Metropolitan Neighborhood Church (an LGBTQ denomination) are among the many inclusive. Your dad and mom could also be frightened as a result of they suppose you’ve got “chosen” to be the best way you might be.
Chances are you’ll discover on-line sources will make you’re feeling higher as you search to know extra about your self. One in all them is The Trevor Mission (thetrevorproject.org), which is the main disaster intervention nonprofit group for LGBTQ younger folks. It gives info and help 24/7, all 12 months spherical.
One other trusted useful resource I’ve really helpful for a few years, not only for you but in addition in your dad and mom in the event that they wish to study extra about this topic, known as PFLAG. It was began in 1973 by a mom and her homosexual son and has grown to change into the main useful resource for instructional supplies on this topic. Its net deal with is pflag.org.
DEAR ABBY: Twenty years in the past, my daughter “Tina” was in an abusive marriage that ended with the overdose dying of her husband. My spouse, her mom, died not too long ago. As I used to be going via some outdated papers and recordsdata, I got here throughout a plain white envelope. Inside have been a few handwritten letters from Tina’s husband, seemingly written to her simply previous to his dying. I’m not sure what I ought to do with them.
My fear is that if I give them to Tina, it’d trigger her to relive that horrible time. Alternatively, I really feel the choice of what to do with the letters needs to be hers. She not solely survived, however she has thrived and made an exquisite life for herself. — PROUD DAD IN FLORIDA
DEAR DAD: You state that you simply discovered the letters in some “outdated papers” belonging to your WIFE. How unusual that they weren’t despatched to your daughter. In the event that they have been meant to be handed on to your daughter, why didn’t she obtain them? If she did obtain them and gave them to her mom, then she already is aware of what’s in them. I feel you need to inform Tina what you got here throughout, ask if she is aware of about them and, if she doesn’t know, supply them to her.
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