DEAR ABBY: My husband goes to be 70 subsequent month. He’s in good bodily form however has taken up smoking marijuana day by day. He says he’s addicted. I’ve informed him how a lot I hate that he makes use of dope. He quits for some time after which goes again to it.
Now we have been married virtually 50 years. I might be upset submitting for divorce, however I’m beginning to suppose it’s my solely means out of a state of affairs that has turn out to be more and more irritating. His physician has informed him it most likely gained’t kill him. Critically? What’s your recommendation, Abby? — POTHEAD’S WIFE IN ARIZONA
DEAR WIFE: Until there are different the explanation why you need out of your marriage, maybe it is best to loosen up. Some individuals smoke marijuana to loosen up or to alleviate rigidity, despair and even boredom. Are you aware why your husband does it every day, and why you might be bothered to the purpose you might be contemplating divorce? Earlier than speaking to an lawyer, you may profit from attending a couple of Nar-Anon conferences to realize some perception. They’re as close to as your pc at nar-anon.org.
DEAR ABBY: I lately purchased a brand new home. I used to be downsizing as a result of my mom has handed away and my daughter went out of state to school. I invited my greatest good friend and her son over. Now we have been greatest pals since junior excessive, and I really like her dearly.
I really purchased my new furnishings with weight issues as an element as a result of she and her son weigh about 1,000 kilos mixed. As they sat down, my good friend joked about having damaged different individuals’s furnishings up to now. Then there was an audible “crack” as they sat down on my sofa. She simply checked out me and made no remark.
Abby, I do know friendship is extra worthwhile than a sofa, however she needs to deliver extra of her household over to go to. I merely can’t afford to purchase a $900 sofa each few months. Are you able to please assist? — HESITANT HOSTESS
DEAR HOSTESS: Your good friend ought to have provided to pay to have your new couch repaired or changed. That she heard the wooden crack below the burden of their weight and stated nothing speaks volumes to me. Sooner or later, go to her at her house, however chorus from inviting her to go to or deliver kinfolk to your house once more.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve neighbors we’re not curious about being pals with. We’re a non secular household and imagine in God. They’ve a black ram’s head hanging of their front room, in the event you catch my drift. They maintain inviting us to occasions at their house or to spend time with them, and we don’t know easy methods to politely decline with out making anybody offended. How can we maintain our distance? — STAYING AWAY IN NEW YORK
DEAR STAYING AWAY: Have you ever and your husband been accepting their invites? If that’s the case, begin backing away by having “different plans.” Nonetheless, in the event that they don’t take the trace, start sending them spiritual tracts out of your denomination, and so they could disappear in a puff of sulfur.
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