DEAR ABBY: This yr was our highschool class’s fiftieth reunion. My husband and I graduated collectively from the identical faculty. We now have attended each reunion, and at every considered one of them acquired the identical reactions from classmates. They all the time discuss to my husband, shake his hand or hug him, however have a look at my identify tag and picture and ignore me like they did in highschool.
I’ll be the primary to confess I’m nothing to take a look at. The one individuals who spoke to me have been the lecturers and my husband. I attempted onerous to be social, however my classmates simply glared at me and walked away. One even stated to a gaggle of scholars, “The canine tried to speak to me.”
Ignored in highschool and once more 50 years later, girl suspects it’s due to her appears to be like.
My husband and I just lately celebrated our forty ninth marriage ceremony anniversary, so I requested him why he dated and married me after I was invisible to his co-workers and classmates. He replied: “It’s all in your head!” He has seen the reactions from co-workers and classmates, but it has by no means bothered him that I’ve by no means been acknowledged.
It hurts so unhealthy I lastly advised him I wouldn’t attend any extra reunions as a result of I assumed after 50 years, our classmates ought to have grown up. He advised me I used to be being paranoid. It has by no means been in my head, Abby, particularly after I prolong a hand and inform the classmate it’s good to see them, just for them to then stroll away. What’s your opinion on this? — REALLY INVISIBLE IN MINNESOTA
DEAR REALLY INVISIBLE: I can not imagine that you’ve got tolerated this for 50 years. My opinion is that your former classmates lack class and compassion, and your husband is not any higher than they’re to have ignored their rudeness. For heaven’s sake, go well with your self when that reunion rolls round once more. Skip it and do one thing that YOU would take pleasure in!
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been courting a man for 10 years. We’re each divorced with no need to get married. We’re comfy with our dwelling preparations. We stay in numerous cities an hour and a half aside and spend a big period of time collectively at one another’s homes.
A single girl lives a couple of homes down from him, and they’re mates. Theirs is a really small, secluded lake city. After I’m not round, they’ve an occasional drink collectively. He says it doesn’t occur typically. I’ve by no means been formally launched to her.
I’ve advised him I’m uncomfortable with this and have requested him to cease. I even instructed he invite her over after I’m there. Your ideas? — SUSPICIOUS IN ALBERTA, CANADA
DEAR SUSPICIOUS: My thought is that after 10 years, it’s time you met the competitors, if there IS any competitors. The subsequent time you’re in that “small, secluded lake city” invite her to drop by so you may lastly get to know her. Her response (and this man’s) will inform you all you must know. (In the event that they react like two scalded cats, you’ll have cause to really feel suspicious.)
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